godincidences – or, when things surprisingly work out…

godincidences – or, when things surprisingly work out…

This Lenten season, my church (Christ Church NYC United Methodist) has been partnering with Immigration Law and Justice of New York for a study called “Overcoming Fear Of The Other” where we’ve been using Bishop William Willimon’s book “Fear Of The Other” and Karen Gonzalez’s book “Beyond Welcome” as primary texts in studying “the other” framed in light of Christ’s ministry. We’ve talked about how people, especially immigrants, are put in the category of “other” and how that affects their treatment, especially during the political landscape we find ourselves in. It’s been a lot of good, thought-provoking discussions, and reading the books has opened up a new lens of looking at people and situations.

Last night, we were supposed to go to a community meal and Lenten service at our campus in Washington Heights. The service was a joint service with the Hispanic UMC congregations in the NYC area. I’d been really excited to go to it.

On Monday, I entered the ticket lottery for “Real Women Have Curves”, the new musical based on Josefina Lopez’s play and her HBO screenplay co-written with George LaVoo by the same name. I didn’t know a lot about the story besides having heard the title before – and I’d heard snippets of the music on Instagram, so I was really excited when I won a ticket in the lottery. (For those not familiar, it’s not a free ticket – just a severely discounted one. Sometimes they are “partial view” seats, but unless you get one of the behind the pole seats at “Hell’s Kitchen” they’re usually not bad.) For the majority of shows on Broadway that have lotteries, you enter the day before – so for entries on a Monday, it’s almost always for Tuesday night’s performance. I didn’t fully pay attention to the date, so when I got an email on Tuesday morning that was “in preparation for your show tomorrow night” I was confused. Until I looked at my e-ticket in my digital wallet.

Nope. It was for Wednesday night.

Which meant I needed to decide if I wanted to waste the ticket and go to the meal and service or use the ticket and skip the meal and service. While the lottery tickets are not that expensive, they are still money. And since I’m working on being better with my money, I decided to attend the show and sent my apologies to the pastor at our Washington Heights campus.

Well, I didn’t know walking into the show last night how it would dovetail so perfectly with the Lenten study it felt right that I was there. (Yes, if you’re familiar with the original play or the HBO movie, you are probably rolling your eyes and saying “Duh”, but remember I only knew the title – I’d never seen either before.) One of the underlying stories is immigration and undocumented persons – people who are very much “other”. A second is Ana’s struggle to reconcile her dreams and goals with the expectations placed on her by her family as she is the only American citizen in the family – so there’s a personal “othering” happening there as well.

There is joy woven throughout, even through the sad moments. One of the most joyful moments is during the titular song when the women – most of whom DO have curves – strip to their underwear in celebration of themselves, their bodies, and their lives. It’s in no way sexual or prurient. It’s full of self-acceptance from all the othering they face.

I am sorry that I missed the community meal and service, but attending “Real Women Have Curves” felt like an appropriate extension of the study we’ve been doing. Sometimes things that seem unrelated really end up being more related than we’d ever think.

And I know I can’t wait to go back to “Real Women Have Curves”. It’s worth it on so many levels.

one little step at a time

one little step at a time

Back in 2011 I embarked on learning to run using a Couch to 5K program. Did my first 5K – attempted to run the whole thing but ended up walking at times…more and more as it went on.

Then I discovered run/walk and things began to change. I was never fast, but I completed 5 full marathons and more than 10 (I can’t remember exactly how many) half marathons using run/walk. I generally enjoyed it, but I never really had that lightning bolt moment so many people talk about when they cross that first Half Marathon and/or Full Marathon Finish Line. And then my final full was done as part of the 2015 Goofy Challenge at Walt Disney World Marathon Weekend – the only place where you actually say “I’m ONLY doing the Goofy” – which is a half and a full on back to back days. Yep. 39.3 miles. And you say “ONLY” because they also have the Dopey Challenge which is a 5K, 10K, Half and Full on subsequent days. And honestly that burned me out. My final half was the Ottawa Half in May 2015.

I got into tae kwon do – something I never saw myself doing – and enjoyed it. Or at least enjoyed forms. I got up to a Double Black Stripe – one belt lower than Black Belt. I could have tested for my Black Belt, but my dojang was very spar-heavy for the test, and I did not enjoy sparring one little bit. I kept going, and if I was lucky I’d get paired with someone who competed on the international level and would often stop and say “OK, what can you do here?” but it just wasn’t me.

Then, thanks to hearing about it from friends, I found Orange Theory Fitness and really got into that. I loved the variety of the workouts – how none of them were the same. I learned how to row. I lifted heavier than I ever thought I would.

And then COVID happened and gyms closed down. At first I was doing walking, but gradually started to do run/walk again. It was not horrible. And I was at least able to keep up some exercise. Once the gyms opened back up, I went back to OTF with the 8-times per month plan and my intention was to supplement that with run/walk. It was all great until I had a couple of falls. Both ended with bloodied knees and palms – the second I even got some road rash on my jaw. I knew I was being risky bracing with my hands, but I also knew that if I didn’t, I was going to really mess up my face – even with the bracing I couldn’t keep my face totally uninjured. I ended up with my wrist hurting pretty badly and an MRI showed a badly bruised – but thankfully not broken – scaphoid bone and was in a brace for a few weeks.

So no more running.

I went back to OTF on the unlimited plan, but a lot of the motivation I’d felt was gone. Part of it was a change of some coaches. But a lot of it was they were gradually changing the workouts and making around half into classes where you chose strength OR cardio. And many of those were at the times I could go. To me, making you choose defeated the whole unique point of the workout. I dropped that membership and changed to a gym with classes – and I did a couple, but… It just never clicked.

When I was doing run/walk, one of my running heroes was always Kara Goucher. Even moreso after her book – “The Longest Race” – came out and I devoured it. I actually got to meet her before the Country Music Half Marathon in Nashville, TN in 2013.

Kara has had to retire from professional running due to dystonia, but she has continued to run on her own. Recently, her son Colt has gotten into running and set a PR that Kara set a goal to beat – and she did it at the 5K in Boston. Following her journey and watching her do that through her struggles with dystonia made me feel like I can do it – I’m just a big old klutz after all. I commented as much on her instagram picture following her 5K where she beat Colt’s PR – and she replied and was so encouraging.

This morning, I went out and did a run/walk at a 1 minute run/3 minute walk interval times 6 and felt great! No falling! I know I’ll never be super fast – and I may fall again at times – but I got out there and I’ve got a plan to follow.

It’s baby steps, but I did it!